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What's up today (bullchiting) thread.

Discussion in 'Everything Else (off topic)' started by Gasifier, Oct 6, 2013.

  1. bogieb

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    Are you sure they are going bankrupt? At my old house, the mortgage got passed around every 2 years or so - but not because banks went bankrupt. Some were smaller banks just wanting to get the cash flow, some were large banks that who knows why they sold (not like we missed payments and they were trying to get rid of deadbeats). Or sometimes when they are getting aquired by another bank, some of the assets are sold. I think ditech and Ocwen are still around, maybe just trimmed down?
     
  2. wildwest

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    Parents in their 70's, still playing games using ME as the pawn :(. OMG they've been apart for 40 years. Yes I know the the culprits, gimme a break, we've known that about one culprit for 50 years, and also the other added 30 years ago (they got married the year after I did, same date). But they still want to run with the exaggerations, gossip and rumors? I don't need this, I'm ill and trying to be a 1/2 way normal mother and they want to drag me into fabricated family drama AGAIN?!? I censored my conversations with both of them regarding everything except office water tank/"how's the weather" talk back in the 1990's. Nope I did not say anything, and It's obvious who did. Just about ready to throw the towel in.
     
  3. Brandon Scott

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    Digital hug sent.
     
  4. Woodwidow

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    Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately some arguments just keep coming back. Brandon Scott had the right idea. Hug sent as well.
     
  5. Woodwidow

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    Just got back from our daughter's place in Ucluelet. It is starting to get busy with tourist over there. Her choir put on an excellent concert. The kind you don't want it to end. Came home to rain trying to start. Oh, do we need it. Driest spring in a long time.
     
  6. Pallet Pete

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    Somebody needs to learn manners...

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  7. NortheastAl

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    I’d be concerned that it’s mother was killed by a car. It is very unusual for a mama deer to let you get close to her young. I had a baby deer I saw in the morning with it’s mom and in the afternoon the baby was close to the roadside again with no mama in sight. I walked up to it and out of the Bush came mama. Got a good snort off at me and I backed off. If you see the deer again and it is alone I would call a wild animal rehab place or something of that sort. Around here our vet takes any wild animals if they are injured and will get them well again. In this case the fawn is probably still on mother's milk.
     
  8. NortheastAl

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    yup. Mortgages get sold all the time. It usually goes crazy if interest rates fall as some banks make a nice profit by selling a mortgage than what they lent out. The buyer just has to wait longer to cash in on that higher interest rate that you were originally sold at. Ours got sold three times.

    There is a little something not many people know. If your mortgage gets sold, sometimes the paperwork gets lost in the process and the bank can’t foreclose unless they produce the original mortgage agreement. People have milked many years in a foreclosed home. Don’t know if it’s the same in all states.
     
  9. NortheastAl

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    I’ll second that.
     
  10. Mwalsh9152

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    I got a letter today from my lemdee telling me that my insurance wasnt renewed when it ran out last week, threatening to purchase insurance and bill me for it. Two letters down in the pile is a cancellation notice because my lender didnt pay the bill.
     
  11. Pallet Pete

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    Ugh:picard:

    Hopefully that gets figured out FAST!
     
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    I have a large family and over the years had my share of this type of drama. I ended up not talking to one sister ( who I dearly love ) for almost 10 years it hurt very bad and ironically she was the first one there when I was really in the dumps even after that. It hit me one day that all that I had to do was not play there games. I just nod and say cool story or interesting and they got the hint fast!

    I don’t know if that would work for you but it’s a thought. Sometimes being the pawn is easy and staying off the board is the hard part. In our case it’s very hard but necessary.

    I hope you are able to deal with this situation it is hard being family that’s for sure.. Some people aren’t happy unless they get others riled up and into there little world of games. Very sad and heart breaking that’s for sure....

    Don’t give them a button to push is my philosophy. We only get one family and when there gone there gone which makes it even harder. I really feel for you what a pain to have to deal with this type of situation...
     
  13. Mwalsh9152

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    I called them to ask WTF? And the recording told me I was current until next year, so they paid it after sending the letter
     
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    The stress you don't need, eh! Errors like that drive me up the wall.
     
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    Thank you and Brandon Scott and Woodwidowand Pallet Pete , your post brought tears to my eyes. As a child it's too complicated to figure out who what and why, as an early adult I came to realize both sides strengths, and weaknesses, and faults become apparent. Did what I could to remove myself from the middle back in the day, obviously it's not enough as they are aged more and crazy things coming up.

    The fact is they are no spring chickens and I love them both dearly. I'm grateful they both found new spouses who love them. My best guess on what to do is to show them as much love as I can, but restrict our conversations even more. I'd like to have a closer relationship with both of them but it's just too dangerous for anyone involved including me.
     
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    The main thing is to do the best you can. It’s never going to be easy. Try to avoid getting sucked into the drama and let them know you love them.
     
  18. Mwalsh9152

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    Right? How can you send me a letter telling me my insurance isn't current when its YOUR JOB to pay my insurance?
     
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    I hate to generalize but financial service companies are rife with incompetence. Best way to pull them up short is to get them to commit to something on a recorded line.
     
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    Me as well :)
     
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