Sorry to hear this brother. I can't relate completely, but I'll offer you my sympathies and if there's anything you need that I can help with, let me know. I'll be glad to do what I can to help. I'm sure there's several others here on fhc that will offer the same or more.
F & B, Taking the High Road is the way to go! You got this man! I am divorced twice the first one was horrible, I had to buy her out of some land that I had (thing is I had the land before the marriage, but I was in 'love' and put her name on it while we were married...lesson learned, for a while we threw stones at each other, that did me no good, I learned that I am worth a lot more than her drama and started living better. Divorce number two hurt a whole lot for a while, but I knew then that I had too much 'good' in my life to live in a world of hurt and got over it pretty quick...I will say that I had no idea how good my good friends were until then, I am honored to have them in my life. I feel for ya and I wish you all the best there is!!!
Well after reading all the comments let me just say good luck and good life to you on your future endeavors. There is always life after divorce.
I would go with the rent fees and tell her to get it out of there asap. Sent from my LG-H900 using Tapatalk
Mediation is supposedly first week in May. It was originally scheduled for last week, but she cancelled. Until then, I have full “custody” of the wood. She will have no interest in taking any wood, she just wants to see how much money she can get from me. I came into the marriage with 35k in cash. I had been living with my folks and saving all I could. She came into the marriage with thousands of dollars of debt. Unfortunately, none of that matters in the eyes if the law.
Wow, did a lawyer tell you that does not seem fair.. But life's not fair.. But law is supposed to be just. Your in thoughts and prayers.
Frank and Beans whatever you do, don't lose your fighting spirit! You are too nice of a guy to let this crap bite you hard.
No worries Dennis, I am doing great! Be glad when this is all behind me, though. If all goes well everything should be settled in the next few months. I’ve been to hell and back, and I am much stronger for it. I jump out of bed every morning, excited about the day ahead. Never thought I would ever be this happy again!
Good luck! It sounds like you have a good outlook. As far as tractor and wood goes-tell her to give you half the appraised value and she can pick them up any time she likes.
Thank you VT! My understanding is that once that money is put toward the marital home, which it was for a down payment, the it becomes marital property. I have already come to accept the fact that I am going to get the short end of the stick, financially. I will rebound, though.
People talk about revenge is sweet but the price to be paid is that you degrade yourself, you kill a bit of yourself by being mean and hurtful. Once I thought I would get back at a woman that was mean to me by saying "at least I don't have a fat arse." The woman was very overweight; I could tell by the look on her face; even though she didn't say anything, that it had really hit home in a bad way. She probably didn't like herself very much because of being overweight. A shrink friend once told me it is not about you, it is about them. I felt bad after I saw the effect it had on the woman and I still regret it to this day.
Frank and Beans I’m sorry to hear about your troubles. No one deserves to be treated like that, but unfortunately it’s all too common these days. Good for you for taking the high road. I’d say she’s losing a heck of a good man, and way more than she realizes. Steel yourself against an attempt at crawling back after she blows through all her money. I’ve seen that happen too.
Good Point Maina, I forgot that one, yes it happens, stay strong! It usually starts with I'm Sorry. Best answer is "I agree"
