Well dang... ... Glad your taking the high road... Good Luck! Hopefully you'll make the trip out to Backwoods Savage GTG in a couple of weeks...
I’ve got my kids that weekend, Chvymn, but I will definitley stop out for a while. Looking forward to seeing everyone!
Hang in there man. The grass Might be greener on the other side but she’s still gonna have to mow it.
I am REALLY sorry to hear about this as I have been divorced a few times myself...and yes the first one being "social" let's call it. Promiscuous would be another word... Mine tried to do the same thing, but with the entire farm! The thing is though, she did not add up all the farming grants that I have gotten over the years. These are not true grants, but cost-share programs, so there is time limits on them, most 10-15 years long. That means I have to farm to "pay" them back...with a fee so that farmers do not get these farm improvements grants, then sell out the next year and make profit from tax payers. So in the end, she would owe me $22,000 for her half after everything was done. I asked her attorney if she wanted to pay that by cash or check? "We have no interest in your farm", he scoffed. Nope...not now! But as much grief as she put me through, I could think of 1000 ways to get her back, then one day I thought of Psalms 46:10.."be still and know that I am God." I did not do anything maliciously even though she continued too. On May 4th it will be 7 years from our final divorce date, and my house is now 100% paid off. She did not get anything, and now has a boyfriend whose ex-wife is worse than she ever was, and starting to see the result of what she tried to do to me. Now I think of Roman 12;19-"Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord." He has...perfectly.
If you ever want to chat, just send me a PM...I know what you are going through. I am also a DivorceCare leader at our church and have a lot of training in helping others get through divorce. In firewood hoarders terms, divorce is like splitting a nasty old crotch piece of wood; splinters and fraying wood fibers everywhere that no matter how people try to make the separation easy, it will probably be the hardest thing anyone has to endure; physically and mentally. I am always here to chat with.
Frank and Beans, I had an ex girlfriend, live in, she and kids were going to be homeless. 3 years later embezzled six figures and left me destitute. Take the high road! Fast forward a decade, I got married to a beautiful woman, I cherish, have a lovely daughter and somehow through blood sweat tears and grace kept my home. 5 years ago I sent her a Thank you for leaving/lying/cheating note. Because I'm loyal, I would not have left, but so glad you did now I am happy and better off Cream rises to top your class act. YOU will have a better life congrats.
I would have never dreamed that she would cheat... but she did. And I would have never dreamed that she would leave... but she did. She continues to do things that I never imagined she was capable of. And while I don’t think the scars will ever go away, I am in a MUCH better place than I was six months ago. I surround myself with better people nowadays. I DO believe everything happens for a reason.
Good for you, sounds corny BUT you can make more money. YOU only have so many days on this planet enjoy them. I also read you have kids, taking the high road is better for them. What else matters in 50 years besides them, not money or stuff
I always hate to see divorced parents talk crap about each other...kids can (and do) figure out who the stable (and wise) one is pretty quickly all own their own. (if not quickly, then at least eventually...the truth will come out, all on its own) Sounds pretty familiar...
Sorry to read all this Frank and Beans but as many have said I went through it too never knew till then that emotional pain could hurt worse than physical pain. I am 12 years now with a second wife and am truly blessed. My wife and I lead a divorce care ministry for a few years (same thing LodgedTree mentioned). I would be happy to chat if needed as well.
