Sorry but I had to say it

When I was finishing my last year of college we found out my wife was pregnant she was working full time in a pharmacy. I was already working 20 plus hours and putting in 60-120 hour between classes and studying (at one point they gave 45 tests and quizzes in an 8 week rotation).

I'm very thankful for the women, infant and child assistance it helped us, sure we would have made it just fine without it but we were able to make some smarter more nutritious meal choices with it.

We are doing very well now! I've not got all my student loans paid off but I'm getting close. Like many posters here I get very aggravated when I see people making poor, wrong and wasteful decisions. I have skimped, saved and sacrificed through 10 years of college and another 9 years of gainful employment to get to where we are at. Many people are poor because they make poor choices.

Edit: I deal with people every day who can't or aren't prepared for any unexpected emergency. A recent unexpected problem of my own lead me to post this 3 years, 3 months, 3 weeks, 3 days

 

Me too.

 

Agreed. It seems a lifetime ago but I asked for help at one point in my life.

Back in '91, I found myself in the position of being the single parent of a 2 year old girl. I made a reasonable wage at the time but with $60.00 a week going to daycare (so I could go to work) plus baby food, diapers, etc, I found myself struggling to keep up.

I went to the state and enrolled in the WICS program (A Nutrition Program for Women, Infants, and Children). I don't recall the exact requirements but in essence, you had to be working full time, make at least $xx.xx but not more than $xx.xx and I fell into the range. There are only certain foods you can use the money for and grocery stores know what they are. It was mostly basic foodstuffs like milk, cheese, eggs, peanut butter and a few types of boxed cereals; none with a high sugar content. If you try to use it for something else the store would flag it. When the child turns 6 you're done.

I appreciated that help. It got me through a rough time in my life. But I too have a problem with the generational welfare people.

Here's an example. This women feels that social services should be the ones responsible for paying for her children.

 

10 of her 15 children?!? Then got arrested!
There's your answer.
So completely irresponsible!
Everyone has made some poor life choices.
This women made 17. Two of them being the father of her children.

All of those children deserve to be loved by their mother (and father)! How could she possibly be there for all 15. And where do they go to get that needed attention when their mother isn't there for them.
So Sad!

Thank you , UncleJoe, for being a responsible parent.

 

No, she use's her "TANF" money for that & her beer money.
It's gettin to where spay & neuter need's to enter this equation.

 

Years ago I was on food stamps, they tasted really bad and weren't very filling!

 

Try FRANK'S HOT SAUCE.
I put that $..t on everything:/

 

Me too... but they kept sticking to the roof of my mouth.

 

Locust Post well said... I also agree with Jon... true story names changed for privacy..

friends father.. Joe (had 4 sons incl. my friend incl.. we were about 13) hurt his back at work.. some reason didn't get workman's comp.. tried to get state assistance foodstamps etc.. did not qualify as they made too much money earlier in year needed last 2 paystubs..... did not have any savings.. buddy asked if he could come over to dinner.. mom said sure so.. we are outside after.. basically says asked if he could eat at our house as they did not have enough food.. .. please don't say anything to mom.. but mom new as Sunday school teacher.. and left over after service.. small foods etc went to their house..

our brilliant plan we rode our bike to farmers 4 miles outside of town.. asked if he needed needed dumb labor.. we worked haYing for 4 days that week.. he said to glean the outer 2 rows of corn and veggies from his gardens.. etc.. never heard of widow rows..

couple weeks later we harvested some deer (OK we broke some game laws.. not sure we knew or cared) game warden caught us.. brought us to his dad.. I never forget Joe came out of house to back shed.. 3 deer hanging another in back of warden truck.. corm and squash etc stacked.. game warden did not arrest us.. in fact road kill over winter went to buddy shed.. his dad was choked up..

don't ask Joe his opinion of govt. assistance.. but he will speak highly of friend and family assistance..

oh by the way...buddy and I are still friends... Joe comes up to my house sometimes with son.. he retired last year.. all is well... but it's a favorite of Joe story for thanksgiving ... now Joe was always a 2 pack a day smoker but I think back.... i never remember him smoking in those weeks

Said all of that to say this... Most all of us want to help people.. none of us wants to see a hungry child... we complain not about the proper use of a system but the abuse of it that always seems to follow..

 

that woman is absolutely right. someone does need to pay for those children. someone= the parents.

but the rest of us should really do something too. I say we start a fund for women who want to get their tubes tied but cant afford it.

 

here is a follow up on this lady. with some well said commentary

 

Well then, she got her chit straight, eh?
Someone else with common sense to the forefront. Love it.