DB, I understand. I was King of the hill until 9/5/1996 @ 12:45 pm. Took me a long time to crawl out of that hole. But I did. It's a mental process that doesn't happen overnight, or even over a few years. Decades may be more like it, but if you work at it, you can do it. Set small goals and achieve them. Feel good about yourself for doing so. Then aim a little higher and go for it. Don't let the set backs set you back, you'll figure a way around them. They're just a strength test and you'll be up for them. I wish you all the luck I can give, and prayers sent. JB
I missed this yesterday. Warm thoughts comin' at ya. I was in a serious funk back in '91. It will get better. Here, listen to Jerry
Hope you are better still today. I do not want to take anything away from your thread but thank you. It has helped me to realize that my wife is at a low low.
I am doing better. I have been changing my habits, even what I eat. It will be a long process. No worries about your wife, that is why I opened up online. At first, I wanted to let my back story slide but then I thought maybe someone else could benefit. I don't know your situation but your wife probably doesn't even realize what she is doing. The despair slowly engulfs an individual. Please be patient with her. See a professional together. I say that because I destroyed my last relationship over this. Best wishes.
Hang in there, honey! I hope you know how much of an asset you are to this place.....you've been here since day 1, you're a block in the foundation of the FHC! And has already been mentioned our group together has a powerful voice when we all send prayer up, after reading your post here I realize just how much we all mean to one another here. Know that we'll be here for ya through thick or thin.......brighter days are ahead for you. So talk with Christ, get this funk off of your chest because you are loved by more than you know!
Glad you are doing better. It is a long row to hoe, but stay strong. I love my wife and am doing everything I can to help her. Thank you again.
At least she spoke up and reached out for some kind words from this bunch, I do the same thing when I'm blue too. Feel better soon Ms devil
An update - I am doing much better, thank you for all of your prayers. I have been focusing on becoming more "involved" in life and getting out there. Slowly bringing Christ back into my life. The fact that the summer is coming and things are picking up at work have been positives in getting me out of the negative space. I've been keeping busy which is a good thing. Some truths have come to light about my ex so I don't beat myself up about that situation any longer. Starting guitar lessons was one of the best moves I have ever made and I highly encourage others in a hole to push yourselves to try new things and meet new people. I hope you all have a blessed day.
Glad to hear you are doing the best you can, DB. A friend's son is going through a similar situation with his wife/exwife of 5 years. There is nothing I know that we can do but be there for him, and wish him well, but he cannot seem to let go right now. Knowing that time heals all wounds(and in some cases time wounds all heels) doesn't make the pain of NOW go away, but all we can do is promise a brighter future if one can eventually let go and let God.
DB, it's easy to say from the outside, but the past has passed. Figuring out how to let it go is sometimes the hard part. Water under the bridge, water over the dam, don't look over your shoulder unless you want to know what's chasing you...all that. My wife told me a long time ago that I'm the only one who can change how I feel. I'm a much happier person now because I was able to heed that wisdom (she's pretty dang smart). Sounds as though you're getting there. "There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." Attributed to Winnie the Pooh.
