Oh, on the brush pile I mentioned it and he said that it was just temporary and he would get it up. Two weeks later vines were growing through it and it was still blocking the road. So that is when I got strong worded; as in, I want it moved this weekend! He moved it but was a sourpuss then on.
If I am here this weekend when they are getting the brush up I will probably go over and help. This Saturday though I will be busy with my sister. It isn't so much about the brush as it is about respecting each other.
I'm unclear as to what all happened with the tree and the tops/branches from it....that part that was on your side of the line.
Id grabbed my saw, and some beer for post sawing... Someone builds on my land, some throws trash on my land, or destroys my land im mad... Someone cutting wood and the tree lands on my land, I could give two hoots. Luckily you dont have "real" bad neighbors.
Let me share a story with you, take from it what you will. My wife and I lived in the city for about 15 years and had the worst neighbors possible. The street! We move to a house with 2 acres in February about 5 years ago. Our neighbor to the south had 6 acres and there was about a football field between us. This husband and wife lived there for 64 years, they were in their 90’s. The back of our wooded property butted up to a recreation center and the local town set off their fireworks directly behind my property by about 20 feet. Needless to say we were obligated to have a 4th of July party. Mind you we moved in in February, and of course had a party on the 4th. We had approximately 80 people in attendance, and quite a few were kids. About 8 o’clock, my phone rings, it Ed next door. My mood dropped instantly. “We’re too loud, kids running around, somebody parked in hid yard...” damm it, I thought, I don’t want the neighbors mad at me. I reluctantly answered the call. “Keith, it’s Ed next door” “Hey Ed, how are you?” “ I’m good, hey, tell those kids to go play in the side yard and give you guys some space. And tell your friends to park in the yard if you run out of space” I was totally in shock! Now Ed didn’t know I am a mechanic by trade, but needless to say, Ed never took his vehicle or tractor to the shop for maintenance or repair for the rest of his life. He also never had a bill. Me and Ed were friends for the remaining years of his life in part to that one gesture. I treasure good neighbors more than anything, probably because I had really bad ones before. So share a beer and some sawdust, and build a neighborly relationship. It will only benefit you both.
Now apply this to the new neighbors that just moved in. Lets say they belonged to this forum....and posted a thread about dropping a tree inadvertently onto the neighbors property, because the husband doesn't know enough about dropping trees....and how the neighbor started complaining about the tree being dropped on her land and even coming over to the house while the husband was gone....and the husband couldn't clean it up right away because he had a job.....but intends to take care of it right away.....and how the husband and wife that just bought the new place are thinking it may be the beginning of a bad neighbor relation.....
Thoreau's cabin and yooperdave Thats how we roll on FHC-proud to be associated with folks like you. We first have a choice to influence how things turn out by how we react...positive projection more often than not produces positive results...You guys take care and hoard on!
Exactly, make it conducive, not combative-the rewards are revealed in spaid's...rather have a helping relationship vs a stand off any day of the week---I wish more of you guys were my neighbor... personally I am blessed-I think...I'm the only guy that burns wood exclusively around here-I get the same ole "do you think you have enough wood?"...And I reply, quite succinctly...."No, I do not"...but they admire my neat stacks and dedication to our craft---I can't ask for more than that...and I have had neighbors recently thank me for the aroma-"Your fire smells so nice, we like when you burn"...Is that the ultimate compliment or what????
And btw, its recently been ash and oak---the smell is akin to vanilla, the way they blend-I'm glad the neighbors notice and appreciate...I pay the man $10.10 a month...and I cook with gas...that amount is the minimum they charge if you're a customer...I say here, thank you...you won't smell the gas furnace burning, but thanks anyway-my furnace kicks on one time a yr at my prompting, just to make sure its working in case I need...TY all...May this find you and yours all well...
My neighbors now on my "wood pile side" started off by asking me to make sure they had a clear path to drag their trash cans through my side yard as he couldn't get them by his boat. I was nice, handed him a cold beer and told him i have a bunch of pallets and wood but ill just bring his trash cans in and out with mine. From then on I always grabbed him a cold beer when i saw him out working, gave his kids otter pops if he said ok, in return the best neighbors ever. I fixed his boat last year and even mowed his lawn after he broke his foot. Never complains about the splitter or when my wood pile creeps over our property line. In my younger years i might have laughed and told em to shove it, but apparently god gave me some grace and it worked out. We both stay here mostly because of each other.
I'm really lucky here, wood gets dropped by cutting and comes down by storm on each others land on both side of me time to time. We drive on each others land to get wood and it's all good. Heck both my neighbors have a bunch of my borrowed tools and vice versa. I know where my tools are when I want them back. They give me wood and I give them veggies in the summer. And I have some stored pallets and wood over the property line. Oh yeah, if one of us is home when the other is working during a big snow storm, we'll punch open the driveway with the snowblower so we can get our trucks in when we come home.
The tree is still there. I am not going to take the man's wood; anything I said about that was not serious. I do want the brush cleaned up and put on his side of the property. While the wood is blocking the road, he has bucked it and so if I needed to use the road I could move the wood out of the way. As I said, he didn't ask me first and if I was gone, he should have waited. Plus, it was foolish on his part because he came close to taking out a couple of small trees on my side and that wouldn't have been OK. They both work and will clean up the brush this weekend.
I have posted about my bad neighbors at the last house. They were a major factor in selling. It was a sub development our houses were separated only by my drive way. It was bad from the get go. Luckily when we had had enough my parents were ready to downsize and retire and my family was growing. So we ended up in the house that I grew up in. 90 precent of the neighbors I grew up with. The guy that abuts me I have know since I was 3 we fish together, when he hears equipment running he comes over on the wheeler to help. Our property is open to each others use. Others I have know for years and all it is a simple hello in passing. I can only see houses when all the leaves fall off. I can pee in the backyard without worry of someone looking out their window. Recently the elderly couple across the street passed and new owners came in. When we saw them out there we went over and introduced ourselves. Talked a bit and ended with if you need a hand or anything we will be glad to help if we can if you just want to be left alone that’s fine too. Good fences make good neighbors is rubbish. Good people make good neighbors.
Yes, having good neighbours can mean the difference. Hopefully we will have a good relationship; and I have established that good neighbours need to ask, not just do. The woman is the daughter to the people that use to live there. The man I just met a month ago. Her parents were good people and we had a good relationship. I watched out for them and they watched out for me. I talked to her last night about not burning green wood because I don't know if they planned on burning that wood this winter. I suggested the dead pine if they needed wood. I was going to see if I could drop the dead pine on my side but it has a lean towards their property. Instead of worrying about making it go opposite, we just drop it and share the wood. I told her that dry pine is safe to burn.
As I said, it is about respect, I know where your land is, and you know where my land is and we respect each other's property. The other things is that he dropped the tree and doesn't have any experience; from what I understand, he is new to the countryside. I think I would have liked to been the one to decide where to make the drop and to do the dropping. If I take down another tree with the drop, then it is my doing. I would not have liked it if he took out the small hickory that was growing where the drop went. I have few hickories on the property and they are slow growing trees.
