One of my step daughters and her boyfriend own a small cape cod style house with a wood stove in the basement. Rather inefficient small stove that was given to them. Throws some heat, very small firebox. His man cave is down there. They burn when its gets cold, or so they said. Gave them a half cord of wood around Thanksgiving. The wood was well seasoned red maple and ash He had complained about it not burning good. Never stacked and right where i dumped it two months ago. Hastily tarped. I wonder why? They have a couple areas it can be stored under cover too. Im siding her house and had to move some of it out of the way today. Bugged the heck out of me. Seasonably cold here the last few days. He was home all day and didnt even start the stove. Sitting on the ground, getting wet and not being used! I cut, split, store, season and deliver it. What more can i do? the splits i had to move.
Sounds like you failed to light a fire, heat the house and clean out the ashes.... but we aren’t all perfect... you can do it next time!!
If he did the css he would have pride and appreciation when he warmed himself in his cave. Give a man a fish, they become a bum
I apologize ahead of time but that’s bullchit Spoiled lazy entitled millennial. What kind of guy would do this. Talk to your step daughter and tell her to get out of dodge ASAP
Id be more than happy to give them more, give them primo wood (he likes ash) and size it to their ideal split, but come on. You're two able bodied individuals. He has a bum arm, but can keep a fire going! The wood is right outside the basement door too!
Not spoiled, not entitled...he is LAZY. Nobody in the family likes him. Theyve been together for years. Were hoping she eventually realizes it.
Sometimes the gift is lost upon others. Needs to be a motivational push or just the connection with figuring out if it’s feasible for them. Not all will find it.
Ive given them wood a couple times since she bought the house four years ago. Neighbor gave them some ash splits and rounds too. I split the rounds for them. I was gung ho for them burning, but its seems to be too much work. I even got the parts and hooked the stove up.
Sourwood has a good point....maybe you should take him out and let him cut (under close supervision, or you do all the cutting, depending on 'how' he is), swing a maul and tote a bunch of wood. Let him see how much work is involved. Maybe then he will appreciate it, see how much work is involved, or at the very least do some work!
I have a Vietnam vet buddy who lives about 3 miles away. He has done some gunsmith work for me in the past and always refused money for it. Well I got his back. He gets some of my best wood each fall. Free. He scratched my back so I scratch his. Some days when I make my annual delivery he isn’t home. But I always get a call later!
Yep sometimes doing things for family does not always work out the way it should. I have two brother in laws. One I give firewood to every year and he always appreciates it and will always help me out if I ask. The other brother in law has a small lawn yard business and he is handicapped so I did all his repair and maintenance on all his equipment. That lasted about two years and I finally told him no more. He would not take care of anything he had regardless of how many times I told him he could not leave stuff out in the pouring rain or snow. He also did not appreciate the time, money, and expertise I spent on him. I actually get along better with him now that I do not mess with his stuff. You never know.
Hats off all right. To my Vietnam vet buddy! I showed him my dads old WWII knife that came home in Dad’s Navy duffel bag. The handle leathers were all rotten and half were missing. We abused that knife on the farm. My buddy said “leave it here for a couple months will ya”? Buddy made new leather washers and plastic washer spacers for the handle and ground them down to get the right convex on the grip. I am sure it took him countless hours to make that old knife right again. So damm right he gets free wood as long as I am breathing. I teared up when he gave the old knife back to me. My bud is a good man. It says USN on one side and Camillus NY on the other. My son gets it when I croak.
I've tried that... Word got back to me that I was a slave driving crazy old boomer... Today seems to be a different world that I sometimes don't quite understand... My Dad taught me a lot of things, but one of the most valuable was how to work and get things done.
Its a KBar, and a good one, i've got several of them, carried one in VN, kept it shaving sharp. my buddy still remembers how really sharp it was, lol.
I doubt it would change any thing, plus he'd slow you down, you'd be ''baby sitting'' him all the time, afraid he'd get hurt, then, you'd be blamed for it!! Nope, i'd leave him home, and stay away from him, he'll end up working you for all your worth, and maybe to death. I wouldn't want him around me, Period! Brad, i feel for ya, seriously, i really do.
