Well, it shows you blood is thicker than water! After we spoke, I mentioned that his son should pick up the tab, he kept assuring me his son "knows what he's doing" and he knows what to do with a chainsaw. He didn't even offer to discuss it with his son and maybe split the cost! That basically cost us our friendship. We haven't spoke in two years. .... Oh well! I don't even wave when we pass in the trucks, he just looks somewhere else.
I will loan stuff out on occasion and just accept the fact that it might not come back in the same condition, but I won't loan out my chainsaws anymore. Long ago I loaned out my 044 to a neighbor. I saw he was using it to cut down a couple bushes and was running it wide open throttle... Fried the top end. Ohh well.. life lesson learned.
Dave I am sorry that you lost a friend. It is sad to see a trust dissolved. This situation has been a hallmark of the ages for even the Great Bard spoke of it in Polonius' advice to Laertes: "Neither a borrower nor a lender be. For oft the loan and the friend are both lost" I hear yah talkin. While I may seem hard and fast in my position on lending, I have broken my own rules many times. I have loaned against my better judgment and been pleasantly surprised. I have also loaned to trusted friends and been burned. As always a spirit of reasonableness applies. There are so many variables. What is the tool involved, who is it, can I afford to write the item off, what mood am I in, has the Wif been irritating me etc. If the need is great and the item can be written off, why not? If I know how to use the tool and the borrower does not, Let me come over and help. I guess, if in ALL situations, we let our fear of being burned override our willingness to help out then our senses of charity and trust go by the wayside also! That would be a sad state of mind to live in.
Well, if he was a true friend, we wouldn't be where we are... And fact of the matters I didn't loose him, he lost me as a friend. I am not a PR!@K of a person but the old saying goes, "screw me once shame on you, screw me twice shame on me"! It won't happen again and all he had to do is apologize and we "could" have worked it out. "NOPE" he got all PI$$Y and drove off. End of story. Edit: not to mention I've had chainsaw's in my hands for nearly 45 years and I know how that saw was when I put it away, It ran perfect!
I understand your feelings. Your friendship for him was strong enough for you to trust him with your saw. His friendship for you was apparently of a small enough worth that he trampled on the trust by not making the situation right!
An old friend of mine had a saying about lawyers; We should kill half of 'em, and send the other half to China...
What's the difference between a bucket of $#!T and a lawyer?...................................................................The bucket.
Who does this kind of stuff?? People really do amaze me at times. Sometimes in a good way but most times it is situations like this. I don't understand how you could think this would be okay....
As a rule, if it has an engine it doesn't get loaned. But that's not written in stone, as others have said. It depends on the person and the time. My neighbor could borrow anything he wanted except maybe the tractor because it takes awhile to get to know how to use. I also know that no one will take care of it or return in as good a shape as when it left here. Hell, I'm so anal I blow my splitter and lawn tractor off with compressed air after each use. And in return those will last me a lifetime and look good when I die.
Isn't that normal?? Along with a once a year wash and wax? And greasing bearings til clean grease comes out.. Tools yes, my car .. No
I have an old mongrel of splitter. I have rebuilt it many times and now have ot to my likings. Has had a lot of rebuilds over the years. It was free to me so there is no initial purchase involved just time and cheap money to make it mine. Have lent it many times until lending got abused by one person. If you kwant to split some wood for yourself go ahead and use it but dont ask yeat after year to use it to sell wood to campgrounds and bring it back broken. It is old but does what I need. After the last upgrade when he asked to use it I said sure but you have to move it alone. It never left home because he couldn't lift the tounge it was so heavy. He went out and bought his own. I will help anyone just don't abuse it.
I lent a Skilsaw out once and the guy cut the cord in half. He brought it back with it masking taped back together. It looked like a small snake ate a big rat. He said don't worry I fixed it.
Insurance companies are in the business to make a profit for the owners/share-holders. If they feel that someone else is possibly responsible for an incident they need to investigate the details. Most lawyers that work for insurance companies coordinate that investigation. Once they are comfortable with the facts they move on. Always document everything and when the other party says "Don't worry about it." you should start to worry. Ambulance chasers are a whole different animal... KaptJaq
Our big issue with lending the woodsplitter out is liability and abuse of the machine. Now it only goes places with campinspecter running it or supervising it.
I like this policy because; you can help out with a loan, interact with friends and keep an eye on your machine all at the same time! Seems to me to be the best of all worlds if you can all meet the same time schedule!
The wife might be the most expensivest thing you could borrow- beware the fella that offers to lend her out!
Yes it was. As I think about it, he IS kind of a conniving sort. I'll have to find out what he does for a living. He may be a lawyer!
