Hello Friends, It has been several months since I even looked at this site. Life has changed so much since I have been here last. My wife filed for divorce and moved out. I never even knew she was unhappy. We alternate weeks with the kids and it is incredibly hard not seeing them every day. To say that it hit me hard would be an understatement. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out how I could die, without my kids knowing that I gave up on life. Well I now realize that my kids need me, and I will never let them down by taking the easy way out. I know now that God has a plan for me, even if I don't understand it. My life makes no sense to me anymore, but I am determined to make the most of it. There are so many people worse off than me, and I am reaching out and trying to help others as much as I can. I have a long ways to go, but I believe better days are ahead. I look forward now to every day, and take nothing for granted. Yesterday I took my son hunting and he made a perfect shot on nice 7 point buck! And I got to see my daughter for a few minutes and she gave me a huge hug that warmed my soul. Life finally feels like living again, it has been a long time since I have felt that way. There are some rough days ahead, for sure. I will likely lose my house and property, and a lot of other stuff. But I will recover, and be a better man for it. Take a moment to give thanks for all you have today. I can assure you, it can all disappear so quickly your mind can't even comprehend.
Frank and Beans I am sorry to hear of the problems you are having but relieved to hear you are working your way thru it the best way you can. Congrats on your son getting a nice buck. If you feel you need someone to talk to, please see a conselor or your pastor. Help is out there and we are all pulling for you. Keep going with that positive attitude you have.
Hang in there brother, better days are ahead. Been divorced for almost 10 years now........time heals all wounds.
I'm sorry to hear the bad news but sometimes everything happens for a reason and we never know what the reason is, however stay positive and enjoy your life and enjoy every moment you can with your kids and cherish it because they will say when they get older dad did everything for us and that could be them in your shoes when they get older and you would a good role model for them..keep your head up and don't look back brother...always do good and good things will come back to you
Frank and Beans hang in there brother, the emotional pain you are feeling with the loss of a marriage is real and I know from experience how much it hurts. You did make an accurate statement in that God has a plan for your life. I went through the same thing after 22 yrs. I have been married now to my wife #2 for 12 yrs. & she went through it too. We spent a few years leading a divorce recovery ministry for our church so I tried helping and saw a lot of broken souls but God can heal your pain. Enjoy those kids and I would be glad to talk pm if needed. When a marriage ends it is not a split it is a tear because your lives and souls were joined. I will be praying for you brother.
Glad to see you, Frank and Beans, and I'm very sorry to hear of the goings-on in your personal life. That's horrible, but it sounds like you have a solid plan. And you are 100% correct when you say your kids need you.....they need you more now than ever, just as you need them. Things will get better, my friend.....you've got lots of friends and family here!
Sorry to read of your misfortune Frank and Beans. Those two children, like Scott mentioned, need you just as much as you need them. Almost everything material can be replaced. Things come and go. Hang tough and great each day with positive thoughts. If ya ever want to chat, throw a line out, I'm on here probably more than I should be!
Your in my family's thought and prayers Frank and Beans, like the others have said your kids need you more than ever now, you will get through this.
Tough times for sure Frank and Beans Just when you think you've hit bottom, it gets worse. Take up people on their offers of someone to talk with when those times are needed. The deception is probably the worse to deal with, but you can and will get over it.
Really sorry to hear that, Frank and Beans...went through it after 10 years of marriage myself. Lots of good wisdom already shared here, and I agree with it all. Whatever you do, don't isolate, and don't give up...just keep doing the next right thing.
Very sorry to hear it, Frank and Beans. You've done very well to decide that the kids are worth living for. You have the power and the gift of shaping their lives in your hands, and no one can ever be their Dad but you. I've been on their side of the coin, and despite the distance, my father helped to define who I am more than anyone else. As said above, a day at a time seems to be the best and only way to take it.
Thank you for the kind words everyone, I do appreciate it! Today was a rough one. I would have thought 18 years together would have warranted a "happy birthday" text, at least. But I guess that was just wishful thinking on my part. Tomorrow is another day.
Your path in life is still here. Don’t fall and not get back up. Your children are the ones that do save you and don’t ever think they won’t. You’re loved and being a father is what you do. If that is what you’re best at, continue that. It will pay off and always.
These are the tough ones brother, hard to disconnect after all the years and you find yourself looking for little hopes that they still care. Look ahead and make your own new path, you will find as hard as that is at times as you push on you will find strength you did not know you had.
They are your children too. I would seek joint custody where they live with you full time for part of the year and then full time with your ex for part of the year. Your rights are just as great as her rights.
