I apologize in advance guys for the potential for a rant here however, I found out recently that my in laws had a tree service cut down 7 24-30" ash trees in their back yard today. I asked my mother in law if she kept the wood and she said she let he tree service take ALL of the wood! Knowing full well that I was ready willing and able to cut it up and take it. I expressed dismay to my wife about this sad fact (don't recommend) and she immediately sided with her parents citing it wasn't any of my concern. Lol what?! I'm just a little irked by this do you guys think I'm in the wrong for thinking they should have at leased offered me the wood?
I had a bad day today also, mostly just the usual stuff that goes on at the workplace. Your case is you tried to score some free btus and got hosed by the inlaws, and the fact that it was premo hardwood you got shanked on would be enough to have me holding down a barstool and pounding down the beers. They could have at least gave you 2 of those 24 dbh ash trees, to give it all to the tree service was just plain mean. I guess a guy dont get to pick his inlaws.
No, your in-laws are turdheads in my book. Sounds like something my mom-in-law would do. I worked at an Oldsmobile dealership back in the day and she (my mother in law) bought a brand new Oldsmobile at another dealership 135 miles away. I better stop typing about her before my blood pressure explodes.
Lol you just have to laugh right? It's Christmas after all. It's not so much my mother in law she's usually cool but it's my step father in law who can be the turd. I don't know what man in their right mind would trash ash like that and actually pay the tree service to take it away...not this guy I can tell you that. To top it off we bought new furniture last week and we asked my father in law to let us use his new Silverado to pick up the furniture he said no, and we ended up having to pay a $90 delivery fee. I felt like pulling his man card right then and there...like really buddy?
Well, it's their trees to do what they want with them. I'd bet you'd have got the whole lot of them if you had cut them down yourself. Why do you feel they owe you the wood?
I don't think they owe me anything, but to me family means being considerate and taking care of one another. But yes, I understand what you mean, I shouldn't assume anything in the world today however, it just seems like such a waste to pay to get rid of wood your family could use to heat their home. It seems like a no brainer to me, which makes me different from you in seemingly many ways.
We probably are very different. I don't think the world owes me a darn thing. Why didn't you cut down the trees, and save them the cost of a tree service? Would that not have been considerate and taking care of them?Just wanted to show up when the hard work was done?
Man you made this weird fast...to be honest, the trees were on a steep embankment and unfortunately I don't have hundreds of thousands of dollars in equipment to cut down trees in a dangerous position like that, I would have if I could.
If they didn't offer the wood because they just didn't think of it or didn't know they had good wood, just tell them you can probably save them some money next time by taking it. If they didn't offer the wood out of malice, then the ship sailed long ago and no use worrying about it now. Either way, you'll (hopefully) be living with your wife a lot longer than that wood would have lasted you, so she's the last person that needs to hear about it.
It sounds like they just weren't thinking, I'm sure no one could me that mean to a fire wood hoarding family member! saskwoodburner, don't judge Decemberist too harshly, how could he volunteer to help if he had no idea they had intended on having the trees down? Rightly or wrongly I too would be gutted if this happened to me, I feel your pain...
I'm guessing it slipped their mind and it was easy to toss another couple hundred bucks to the tree service. Or they think you already have enough wood. Or they wanted it gone that day. Who knows? I wouldn't sweat it. It's the holiday season. Smile. Enjoy yourselves. Drink lots of egg nog.
Well, that stinks on all corners on life. Your in-laws and your wife being family should have been more considerate being family and all. But it sounds like your pop in law is a character from Grumpy Old Men... Both situations you mention warn you of a long life with him since you are married to his daughter. Learn from it I guess. But just remember what goes around comes around...
ask your wife to take over the oil or gas payments for your heat. I'd get tired of burning real quick if that happened to me. then I would just drop it and live with.(maybe a few sly remarks about how great it is to just turn on the heat). I guess that isn't really dropping it though!
I feel your pain man My in-laws have 60 acres with tons of perfect dead sugar maple laying on the ground all over the place and an abandoned orchard with lots of Apple wood that could be removed. They know I'm scrounging wood from tree service jobs and off my 2 acre wood lot but never have they offered and I know better than to ask It's not an entitlement thing at all, I just know that if I saw someone working hard and really trying at something and I could help them in such an easy way I absolutely would, especially family.
Maybe the tree service is also running a firewood business and they offer the in laws a discount for the service to be able too take the wood. Or they just wanted everything down and cleaned up and gone ASAP. We can all speculate but why not just ask them?
thanks for all the insightful replies both for and against (saskwoodburner) my position on this. For the sake of my happiness and marriage, I will regretfully bow out of mentioning it to my wife again Lol. Perhaps my original post came off as a bit malicious but I'm not an spiteful person. Besides, it's Christmas and nothing a couple of beers can't get me past and I still have plenty of wood to get me through the year, life is good!
Probably the best move you can make. If you push, someone will get pizzed, which means the wife gets pizzed, which means you still lose. Someday they will need something and you can politely remind them of this or simply not be available....plan some good reasons now so they do not get you on the blind side!!
Well, unfortunately my father in law has been doing this sort of thing to my wife and I in the 12 years I have known him. Basically, he just didnt feel like dealing with the wood and wanted it off his property's sap... No speculation needed it's a fact. I am not sure of the discount but if I had known about this beforehand, I would have gladly paid the difference it would have cost to offset that.
