Both our parents have been divorced for decades, and thankfully most have new loving spouses. My husband is taking our 3 y/o to his hometown for thanksgiving. His mother and father are competing for his time. It's hard on my husband. It's now come to inlaws degrading the ex for scheduling a trip for our daughter to see santa at the local mall. Sheesh
Sucky situation to be in. Sometimes it's hard to understand why adults can't act like adults. Hopefully your kid will have fun either way
They are in or close to the 70's now. I hate that all of them are aging! But still a bit embarresed for the inlaws. Too many years ago and not enough years left for petty wins.
Sorry to read this WW. Good grief. How is a little girl seeing Santa... a bad thing? Hope they can get it together. And, I hope you've got family/friends around at your place while your honey is gone, over Thanksgiving...
Seriously...hopefully you use this as a teaching moment. I would say something to your child about it because kids can see the BS more than we think. In my case I never say anything negative about their mother...showing them how to take the high road. Good luck.
Sorry to hear about this, that's got to be hard on your family! I’m very fortunate that both my and my wife’s parents are still married. What I run into is scheduling conflicts with my stepdaughter’s father, although normally it’s him cancelling plans to take her. Which I guess is better than the alternative since she doesn't like going to his house in the first place.
Next year, invite them "all" out to your place. If the X's start B&Ming about each other; ask/tell both sides (with their current spouses) to leave and be done with it. Walk them to their vehicles, tell them you love them, but will not tolerate this crap any longer in the presence of your kidlets.
WW, it is really sad when we hear and/or read about so many divorces. And now you add they are in their 70's. Wow. As for the aging part, that is just something which happens. Some never make it to old age; some wish they hadn't; some want more. Both my wife and I are in our 70's. We've been married now for over 52 years. It is still good.
Congrats on 52 years, wow! You don't here that lately. We just celebrated our 20th, I'm sure the next 32 will be just as good too. I have had a few things that stuck in my craw years ago, but they are not important to me anymore, I need what I have to focus on kindness and love, not decades old, petty chips on shoulders. The good news is hubby has dealt with this for years, and he quite able to juggle conflicting demands, not afraid to to say no when needed. It just struck me how this conflicts with the movie Stinny just posted about. Hmmm. In the end she will see a greatgrandmother who is 89, her grandmother who is ill, and her grandfather that is also ill. Not easy to do but it's the right thing, and needs to be done, sooner than later. Thanks BS
Divorce brings many challenges all around, that's why the good book says God hates divorce but it's just a thing that sometimes happens. After decades though it should not be affecting things but I know that it does in certain people who hold on to some sort of bitterness or petty feeling of retribution. My wife and I both have been divorced and have led a divorce care ministry, forgiveness is the best medicine no matter what or who is the more guilty party. I always try to say after while ex's are just another person traveling through life after while....don't gey me wrong I understand all situations are different and bring different challenges. Good luck and hope for good holidays to you and yours.
At close to 70 years old, they should be ashamed of themselves! Makes you want to yell "Get over it and grow up!" Sorry you have to be involved with this mess. Maybe they need to hear just what kind of affect it has on the non-participants. Hang in there and try to not let their (mis)behavior add to your stress.
