I will try to stay short. Step father in law put wife's mother in a nursing home that we aren't allowed to go see her at, without consulting her kids. She had a health problem but nothing we wouldn't have helped with or been able to handle. She made my wife promise to not allow this years ago. Finally got a number to call her at and can tell she isn't herself and drugged up. Wife is beside herself. What would you do, ever been in a similar situation, any idea on rights?
^^. This they say stuff like that but never fill out the paperwork and make you powerless. Durable power over medical Durable power of attorney
Probably not much can be done without going to probate court and you will need an attorney. Can you talk to step father at all?
No, but it is my prayer that you will hear the answers you need here, at least to give you a direction to work in, and that you'll walk in wisdom (if you ask for it you'll get it) for making decisions esp..when they involve legal types, money, and family. Sca
Thanks all. All we have got from Step FIL, is that this is best and I'm doing it. The sibling relationships are dYsFunKtionAL. Only my wife and FIL's oldest even speak, been this way for years. His oldest hasn't spoke to his own brother or sister in 2 years, and told my wife all he got out of his dad is he thinks he is doing what is right and only has himself set up as the allowed visitor. He asked if dad talked to her kids about the situation and he just replied I Texted them to know where their mom is. Oldest son couldn't really get out of dad why she is so confused if it was medicine interaction or the health issue. Said he will let us know if he hears more. As for wife's siblings, they haven't spoke in 5 years. She is oldest and 2 brothers. Youngest brother has said for last 20 years she better have nursing home insurance and don't think he and his family will be bothered with this kind of thing and when we tried to touch base, same answer, he said let FIL handle it only tell me if mom gets really bad. Middle brother thought she was just being swing bedded for a couple days and would be out, hasn't even called her since before surgery that set things in motion 5 weeks ago. We are so livid that her mom has asked my wife for years to not have this happen and nobody cares. Tried telling her years ago to take care of setting this up on paper but being older and trusting it would just happen this way we don't know that she did get it on paper. Going to be trying to find out if she did but probably will take a lawyer, SMH. My wife has been a nervous mess this weekend and the stress has really flared up her Arthritis and Fibromyalgia which she was warned it would do. Pretty sure if any of the yahoos actually show up in person it will take about one smarta$$ comment and I will be getting an assault charge. Gotta just love family!
