dating tips needed...kids

I consider him my "French online boyfriend". But that's about as far as it goes. Sounds so exotic.

 

I have no advice to offer but wish you luck.

I've only been on 1 first date....

 

When you ask if she has protection and she smiles and says yes as she whips out a .45 ...She's a keeper!

 

Even though you know her kids, the reality is that they have nothing to do with what is going on between you two- right now.

Don't mention the ex. Daryl's all over that, and take it slow.

While you may know of her, there's a lot about her that you don't know. Listen. You might find out interesting things. You also might find out that there's no way in hell that you'd go on another date.

Getting back to taking it slow.
Your body takes a while (months) to fully recover from having its heart ripped out through your chest.

 

Wear your chaps....no lady can resist our chainsaw cutting chaps!

Seriously, great advice by others....go slow....minimize doing any activities with the kids until a long time in the future....be yourself....mention FHC a lot...don't mention the Ex-wife, even if just joking.

Also, it's easy for some divorced people to get a little needy on dating after the divorce to fill the void left. Try to recognize this if you feel it happening to you.

Not sure about your ex wife, but I really took a long look at the mistakes I made with my ex when I started to date my now bride. It was an eye opener for sure!

Good luck man!

 

Ok somebody has to say it.....
RUN MAN RUN... As fast as you can !!!!

 

My bad. Eric VW reminded me it was your ex-gf not your ex-wife. Dang it's been a long weekend.

 

This is one time I'm so glad that I am too old for any of that action. The drama involved is more than my heart could take. Anyway, I have the one I want. So should you. Good luck.

 

Do something nice for the girls.....
Bring them a small gift or gift certificate.
Do a "family date"



Don't ignore the children, but don't try to buy them off either.

 

Slow an steady wins the race .my girl friend has 2 girls they are awesome we get along good corse it helps I have a big a$$ pool there mom is the best thing that's happen to me in a long time . And yes she likes to cut wood.!!!!!!! She rocks my world

 

Never, and I will say again, NEVER ask for advice of this nature on a wood hoarding site!
Now, with that being said, it's too early yet....Take it real slow so you don't get caught up in a "rebound" type of scenario....
Whoops, that's advice now, isn't it?

 

Daryl...is this you and what you're talking about??

 

Ha! Yep. That's pretty much what internet dating is like. It's worse as you get older. Pictures are outdated (some 20 yrs old) and they used to do the things they list on their profile. Oh, and there are the freaks who post body parts. It's an adventure.

 

Probably the best advice right there.

I went on a date a few years ago with a girl I found on Match.com. She was the first one I ever went out with that had a kid, and I'm not even sure that I realized it when I first messaged her as at the time I didn't want to bother with having stepchildren. We just had fun together for the first few dates, and I let her talk about her daughter when she wanted, but did't press to hard for information as she was pretty worried about telling a stranger too much information. It took about 4-5 dates until she felt comfortable with me meeting her daughter who was 4 at the time, and it took another 4 months before her daughter was comfortable with me. Fast forward until now and we're celebrating our 3rd year since we met on Aug 8th and our 1st wedding anniversary on the 9th, and her daughter calls me "dad" now. Not that I have a ton of experience, but the one take-away from that was that for my relationship with my wife, her daughter's relationship with me wasn't that important, until it was, if that makes sense. Saying that another way, step one was making sure her and I connected. Step 2 was making sure her daughter and I connected.

 

nothing wrong with that!
have fun Bo