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dating tips needed...kids

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  1. bocefus78

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    Got a date coming up. She's got an 11yo and 15yo. Both girls if it matters.

    I love kids and all (was a day camp counselor for 4 years...we get along great) but never dated anyone with them.

    Dad is in the picture and is a good dad so there's that.

    Besides be yourself and don't try too hard, what advice can you give me?
     
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    Don't tell her about the 7 chainsaws?:rofl: :lol:

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    Well, just be yourself and don't try too hard.:picard:
    Heck, I don't know, but I'm glad you're back out there. Are the kids going with?:hair:
    Have fun.
    Kids see stuff, and notice more than you think, so be honest with them, whatever the subject. I bet you know that.
     
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    Yep. No issues there. Im good at dealing with kids...probably because im just a 37yo version of one. up front honest don't hide chit kinda guy.
     
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    I suggest find out what the daughters' likes and interests are (the earlier you ask, the more it shows you're potentially interested in contributing/recognizing/validating them); besides- teen girls are so vulnerable to trying to "fit in" and even tho you mention their father is in the picture, a fractured home leads to unforeseen heartbreak in the children which may only come out when they feel non included/ acknowledged.
    My wife comes from a divorced family(when she was really young) and although both sides are amicable, it is clear to me that some of the mischief my wonderful bride sought out starting in her early teen years was a direct result of the unnatural condition of having her mother and father divorce... Of course, my wife denies that it ever broke her heart. But there's more under the surface than on top- and I'm no dummy on the matter.
     
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    You pretty much summed it up yourself....................go easy and let nature takes it's course, don't try and over analyze the situation.....................:yes:
     
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    No experience in this situation but I would FOR SURE give a try and see how it goes :)
     
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    Oh...that's gonna happen. She's a gun owner and requested a trip to the range. :thumbs:

    Oh yea....much better looking than my old ....um.....car.
     
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    Hey bocefus78, this ain't yer ex's gf, right?
     
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    From an outsiders experience. Pampered lab= good with kids.....
     
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    Negative. Set up by a mutual friend.
     
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    :thumbs:
     
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    Throwing ball with the yellow monster as we type lol.
     
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    DON'T TALK ABOUT THE EX ON THE DATE.
     
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    Eric VW brings up a good point. Nobody in my family has been divorced.

    I have no experiences with that. Adds a different view point.
     
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    Not necesarrily. Depends on the person. Both my husbands parents and my parents divorced. We are 25 years together, 21 married. My sister is now divorced twice.
     
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    The other advice I would give is take it slow. Don't rebound. You are still in love with your ex. Think of this as what it really is - just a date.
     
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    These are children, and in a much different time, tho...
    bocefus78 may not be still in-"L" word with ex, but I agree to take it slow.
     
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    Foooorrrr REAL! Or ever, for that matter!
     
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