I'm ok. Sat down last night and told her I'd help move which she seemed to pretty much refuse. I also told her the areas she should avoid that are crime ridden....guess where she was looking? Yea. The hood. It's hard being nice, harder coming home to boxes, but I'm doing OK so far. The hardest part is seeing her do it. It's the happiest she's been in a while and that hurts. It's the most effort she has put into anything since she moved in.
Things will work out in the end bocefus78. Keep a positive attitude. We know you will be a good person about it. That will result in good things in the future for you.
Sorry bro, but my thoughts are exactly what Rotti said. For now keep your mind busy, reload, hit the range, run the saws...whatever it takes to Make the transition less stressful. Speaking of that, Ill be at the range tonight.
Only good thing coming from all of this is now my reloading room will not also be an office for her. Can you say bigger bench?! Haha. I'm trying to find positives in all of this.....that's the only one so far. Have fun at the range!
Sounds like the biggest positive is you don't have to be around somebody who is miserable all the time...and doesn't have the fortitude to change that. Keep busy.
If you were closer, that warrants a fist bump. VERY WELL SAID! Have a beer tonight, and act like I bought it
Taking my wife's M&P 9mm tonight. She has such small hands, that's the only grip she felt comfortable with. Might use this occasionally and give the G26 a break. Only thing is I get a couple more rounds out of a flock clip vs. the Smith
The line has been drawn. She's taking the last box out monday. Tough to watch. My help has been refused. Her brother arrives Monday morning. I told her I'm disappearing tomorrow and wont be back until shes gone. It's a good thing he is non judgemental. I've been as loving and helpful as humanly possible. Tonight I vented.....to her. I couldn't contain what needed to be said. I said things that she needed to hear. Bottom line is dont bottle up feelings....she did. I'm ventiing....sorry fhc . It's become my journal.
Installed a window air conditioner in the garage tonight....guess where I'm sleeping ....with the dog
Vent away friend!! And please, do not be sorry about it, too many caring folks here that want to support you
Right now I'm thinking of schlot losing his dog. ....my problems don't compare. I wish him well this weekend.
Vent away...There is plenty of ears and helpful advice around here. Just glad you have somewhere to retreat till after she leaves so that the healing process can start. Take care and keep that chin up...
Let her go. Let her move to the bad neighborhood. Let her move her stuff on her own. Let her life be crappy. Block her out of your mind and move on. She has made her choice. You are not responsible for her decisions. Ok. In reality, none of that is easy to do but it's the truth. The longer you hang on, the longer it will take to recover. In addition, her depression will consume you. Let her go. From personal experience, she is the only one who can make the changes IF she wants to and it doesn't sound like she wants to. I sent this to a guy yesterday who is a mess after his divorce and was involved with someone similar to your GF: I don't know how old you are but you get to a certain age and realize your mortality. You decide that you want to be happy and not waste life. Do it. Get Happy. Buy a pint of ice cream, watch some girly movies, cry it out, and then let go.
Agreed. I realized in my late 30's that lifes too short. Booted the dumbimbo out that was dragging me down. Stayed single for 3-4 years with eyes wide open. Met an awesome woman 2 years ago. Lifes been great since. Stay busy,, real busy,, as mentioned. Move on,,, she has.
I completely agree with the great point of staying busy...it's helped me this weekend doing normal things. Daryl makes a great point...I was told during my divorce to separate things our into three areas. My "stuff", our "stuff" and her "stuff". You only can take responsibility for all or some of the first two. The last one (her "stuff") is all her responsibility.
Hang in there bud! Trust me, it'll get better, and you'll find better too. Also, as others have said, it's great that you vented, to us, and even more importantly to her.
