Interesting article on parenting

I have seen really good parents have bad kids and I have seen really bad parents have good kids. I think I got lucky. I wasn't raised to feel I was entitled to anything ,we didn't raise our boys that way either

 

We don't have kids, but we were both raised by good parents that weren't afraid to be parents. They could be tough, fair, and loving all at the same time.

It's a shame that kids these days don't often have (2) parents that provide them a good home life.

 

I was taught many years ago to raise your children to leave don’t raise them to stay!

 

I clicked like for this post but wish we had a love this post button to click!!! Thank you so much for sharing!!!!
So true,So true!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I don’t like the use of the word “important”. It’s misleading. If I was in a situation in which I would risk my own life to save the life of one of my kids, I wouldn’t hesitate to try, potentially to my own peril. I would not expect one of my kids to do the same for me.. does that make me less “important” than them.? I think a major issue nowadays is that parents want their kids to have things better than they did when growing up. When previous generations of parents ensured that life was better, it was because they gave their kids opportunities. Nowadays, parents make their kids’ lives better by doing everything FOR them. Another issue is one of parents trying to be their kids’ best friends.. in doing so, they are removing themselves as disciplinarians and instead becoming advocates even if the child’s behavior is bad.. another issue is parents not allowing their kids to get jobs or instilling in them the belief that they are ABOVE doing certain tasks. Even with chores around the house. This helps lead to a belief that the child holds a certain status in the community hierarchy (without ever having actually accomplished anything) and leads to problems with respect, discipline and work ethic. So in essence, I kind of like what that guy said, but not how he said it..

 

When there's no father (or parenting skills in general) to teach respect, there's no respect. Instead, these kids are taught to be victims.

 

Spot on and couldn't agree more. I think you hit the nail on the head on many things but one in particular is that the difference in kids today is a result as you mentioned previous generations of parents wanting a better life for them. In part the parents made them that way. They didn't want their kids to endure the same hardships or hard labor as they did so they pushed them towards college, allowed them to save money by living at home much longer than prior generations and doing much more for them than prior generations. Nothing wrong with some of those things but there is a fine balance. Work ethic, discipline, respect etc.. all must still be instilled at home. Also spot on about being friends with their kids, sure my 8yrs is my best buddy we do lots together but am not trying to be his best friend, I am trying to raise him to be a respectable young man to succeed in this harsh world. I've see relatives trying to be besties with their kids, hang out with them, try and be younger and cool with them, again there is very very fine line with that all.

I get why they answered their kids, emotional response! Who wouldn't here take a bullet for any one of their kids. I love those dam kids more than anything, they are my world, and as hard as it is sometimes and my wife and I get pushed to the brink I get sheer pleasure out of raising them, watching them grow, learn, asking questions, failing/falling down, getting back up, traveling, exploring this world together, etc.....

My wife and I always set aside time for us when we can. It's been very difficult with 3 kids, we don't have many options for babysitters. But we always make time for us and our marriage, kids know this. We sometimes will go away for anniversary or just out for dinner occasionally however we are homebodies. I think there is a very profound respect from our kids to us and our marriage. Mom and Dad talk often, hold adult conversations not intended for my kids ears. They understand what we provide for them, how it is done, going to work and earning money. Paying for things, house, bills, electric, etc... I remember talking to them once about bills and electric, I told my son you see that lamp, light you put on in the kitchen, every time you open the fridge, etc... that costs money. You charge your computer for school, watch TV, that costs money. He's like what do you mean and I explained it to him. Just like when you take a shower, flush toilet, etc... he was blown away. You think Dad's truck just drives on it's own? It breaks, needs parts, it needs gas, etc... I have to pay for that.

Sorry was long winded, actually was able to breath from work for a bit.

 

How can there be any respect for human life when abortion is so prevalent. Pro choice devalues human life.

 

Parents should stop raising kids and start raising adults. If a person at the age of 18 isn't ready to join the real world, the parents have failed.

 

...then they're ready for college..

 

AMEN!!