What do you politely call a grown woman these days?

Some times it's hard to tell the difference. It's a crazy world these days.

 

Hey, neighbor. You got that right...

 

Reminds me about a long time ago I saw a long-haired women walking down the road and took a second look. I never new a girl could have such a nice looking beard.

 

It's sad but true. There's a person at the grocery store checkout that I honestly can't tell what gender they are. Young, hair dyed blue, short on one side, long on the other. Tall, overweight and wears baggie clothes. Name tag says Kylee. I really don't know.

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Kinda like Pat from SNL, about twentyish years ago or so? Anyone remember that skit?

 

Chris Farley? I haven't watched SNL for at least 15 years if not longer.

 

I see. Just looked it up online. The Pat skits are closer to 30 years ago now.

 

Generally I default to sir or maam if I am addressing an unknown person. If I make a mistake, I silently correct it, or if they call me out on it, I apologize and correct it.

Likewise, if I know the pronoun a person wants to be called, I will call them that. It is no indicator of what I think of their birth or choices, just being friendly, and that is polite. That said, I really don't like using "they" to indicate an individual.

 

I don't care if Nancy wants to be called Nancy, Bob or Stephanie - I will call her whatever name she wants (and guys too). I once worked with a gal who preferred to be called Sylvia - that wasn't on any of her legal documents and wasn't even close to her real first name. She just liked the name so introduced herself that way, and that is what everyone called her.

I've never actually run into anyone that stated they preferred a different pronoun, but would probably have a hard time with "they" just because it sounds strange when trying to use proper English.

 

Years ago, there was a checker at our local Walmart that was older than I, taller (I'm 6'-4") and bigger than I by 30 pounds, deeper voiced than myself and always dressed as a woman. She had longhair, bracelet, etc. Obviously it was a very odd situation to see that and was a bit uncomfortable.

I made it a point to go to her line, learn her name and always be nice to her. Even at that she wasn't always the nicest to me. Maybe she was being defensive or worried I was making fun of her somehow.

I still tried each time, as I figured she had a lot of issues going on upstairs, a lot of battles she was fighting, no doubt probably heard plenty of nasty comments and perhaps a friendly face could do just a bit of good.

After all, mixed up as she was, she was still one of God's children.

Found out later she served in Vietnam and came back a wreck mentally.

 

Being polite, nice, respectful is not an indication of agreeing with a person's choice on any subject.

We are routinely nice to people we don't agree with. I'm very conservative but would be nice to President Biden if I ever met him even though I can count on a closed fist how many things I agree with him on.

 

Ugggg...how time flies!

 

You are exactly right, it’s more important to me to be polite and respectful than it is to be judge-mental.

 

Good for you!

 

Sir and Mam, I don't give a chit if they don't like it!
That's their problem.

 

Thanks. But it wasn't anything special. Just how I'd like to be treated if I was in those shoes.

Have a good one man.

 

Wow, interesting story. And you are right about us all being God's children. God bless you sir for trying to be a blessing in someone else's life.

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Reminds me of a Little Johnny joke about theory & reality that I heard years ago. Etiquette deems it’s not to be shared here.