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Impending Divorce

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  1. Jack Straw

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    Well, you came to the right place! There is more wisdom in our members than any other site. These are awesome people and many have “been there” . I’d rather ask these folks than the so called “experts”
     
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    ......and, If your problems bring you to your knees in prayer, they have served their purpose!
     
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    Reaching out for help here is first step in the RIGHT direction... now just don’t stop!
     
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  4. SD Steve

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    I'm sorry to bother everyone with my personal problems. I was just going through a tough moment (big fight with my wife, kids avoiding me, boss asking why I can't be on time to work) I should just keep to myself...........
    I am Lutheran and a hardcore one at that. My church demands strict adherence to the law and gospel.....and be sober.
    When I started going to this church, I have never heard the lord's word more loudly. I grew up Catholic, but I rejected most of the teachings in my early 20's....
    I go to church when I can, but I am definitely a believer.
    Sola fide, Sola scriptura
    Thank you everyone for you kind words
     
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    No worries friend. Sometimes the Holy Spirit will guide you through the advice of others. There is no shame in pouring your heart out to those around you.
     
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    A church is just a building, but a personal relationship with the god of your own understanding can get and keep you sober. After that a life you never thought possible can be lived by you!
     
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    You dont need a building to talk to god. Does not mater where you are he will listen.
    You can as you put it bother everyone ( your words not mine) anytime. We would be more upset if you didn’t.
    We are Family you get the good times along with the bad times. But we all need help sometimes.
     
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    6 years sober! You can do it!

    That being said I did have a friend that passed away from alcohol about 2 years ago. Admitting there is a drinkin problem and wanting to quit are the two biggest things in my book.
    There is a life after quitting and it is much better.

    Gary
     
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    X 1 million.
     
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    Amen
     
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    Well written Redneck
     
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    *NOTE*. I'm moving thread to everything else all. Please check in there!!! Dave.
     
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    Never felt the need to say this but seems like a good time. Steve my name is Chris and im a recovering alcoholic drug addict. I am 22 years off of IV heroin use. I was fresh out of rehab when i met my 19 year old wife. We got pregnant young and now my daughter is 21. My little boy is 6. So i couldnt to drugs anymore so i began drinking beer. I drank hard and fast always had 2 or three jobs never got fired or anything like that i just maintained. I eventually started to drink vodka and it just became a vicious cycle putting my wife through hell. Quitting and stopping many times. I got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I almost lost everything. Im happy to say i am almost 5 years sober now and have never felt better in my life. Please take it one day at a time. It gets better i promise
     
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    Steve I’m glad your here on FHC brother!

    This is a good group of people! Never think your problems are a burden... Many of us have walked a tough road and I personally wouldn’t be around except for a few who helped me dig out of the trenches. There’s nothing better for when your down than the love and suppport of others...

    Many of us know each other personally on the forums and I can say these are heartfelt desires to help and listen...
     
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    Steve, your in our thoughts bro. You have a great support team here.
     
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    Steve, I'm very glad you are feeling better today than you were yesterday on your original post. I have gone thru two divorces in my life, with each divorce I wondered how I would get on with my life. With the help of family, friends, and over time my pain was healed and a "new" life was born. Please know your friends here on FHC can always be a resource along with your immediate circle of friends and family. Time is also your friend. Stay strong my friend.
     
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    SD Steve I will be raising you up to the mighty hands of Jesus. I fought the demon of alcohol and can say I have not touched a drop in 15 years by God's grace. I also experienced divorce as did my wife and we went on to lead a divorce care ministry.

    NEVER EVER think you are a burden here on FHC.
    pour your heart out anytime you need to, PLEASE !!!!!!!
     
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    Wow... what a thread... what a group of caring folks... amazing...
     
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    Have had those moments of despair- not going to share the details but it will get better if you persevere. Hang tough-find something to grab onto-God, family, whatever works and get up every morning ready to fight. Sounds simple-but it is hard to do-hoping you can and thinking of you.
     
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    20 years sober here. Alcoholism was going to cost me my wife and kids and my life. Other than all the other fantastic advice offered by the others I can only add that quitting the alcohol is the key. I managed to do it without any outside help but if you feel you need it by all means grab on to that help as soon as possible.
    Stay strong.
     
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