I had to move the mound of splits with three cart loads to their carport today, about 40' away. Its a half cerport/half gararge/shed in their backyard. Pulled the smaller splits and left them on the tarp near the Bilco, telling him about it and to cover them before it rains. She complained about the stove only holding two splits and its a pain to go down all the time to add more. Told my GF that im not giving them any more wood.
Flip side: It was generous to give the wood away, but it was a gift - for them to do with as they please. I wouldn’t get upset, but I also wouldn’t deliver to that address again.
Give them a stove that holds more wood. Move into the basement and load it for them. Build them a wood shed. Make their breakfast. Clean their toilet(s). Constantly remind them how to live properly and what their morals and ethics should be. Hi mom !!!
Love is blind though, that is the problem. I will admit that I have been blind a few times myself in relationships.
I agree; I would tell them that you don't mind helping them out with wood but they must store it properly because leaving it to soak up water and rot is wasting wood and you worked too hard cutting and splitting to have wood go to waste.
Unfortunately, for the lazy, the more you give them, the more they expect. Once people find a source for personal gain, they will pound it until they're found out. Goes back to the give a man or teach a man to fish parable, no? Next time they ask for wood, just let them know they didn't take care of it last time. Also just as unfortunate, the inside of their chimney is probably a mess!
Theres a dead ash tree on the property line they and the neighbor are probably paying me to cut down. I have to rent a cherry picker lift. He like ash. Im going to leave a nice stack of rounds for them. He has a "bum" arm but is well enough to go to the gym. He raises homing pigeons/white doves and spent the day cleaning the coop yesterday. I told my GF (her mom) last night no more wood. I charged the eldest daughter for a face cord last Winter but it was almost a four hour round trip to her place in RI! "Gee Brad, your wood burned so nice compared to what we've burned before" They are casual burners with just a firplace. They dont even return a favor either! "Hey come on over for dinner etc" some simple gesture of appreciation rather than a hey thats great Brad with a pat on the back. Sorry for the rant, but it just P#$$#$ me off more i think about it.
I understand, the younger crowd becomes less reliant on things that are hard work. Thus what was given becomes wasted on them somehow. I believe at this point its a done deal and the next time they bring it up, you have a choice on what you have to say. The words that will last longer are the ones more carefully said. You’re learning a lesson now about this, next it’s their turn. Hopefully they’ll pick up what you put down.
Stop thinking about it. You have no real control over their situation. No need to fret over things you have no control over. I know, easy to say, but it sounds like it's time to move on. Dream about what's in your next score. Your happy place.
its hard as ive been working there for four days now and see the wood. I also see why nothing gets done by seeing what he doesnt do! He'd rather go to the gym for an hour! Im okay now. Thanks for the pep talk and positive words MikeInMa .
