Some days are diamonds and some days are stones

Sorry to hear that. My parents set the same thing up. Told us we would only have to pay for transportation of the remains. That didn't prove to be the case. We had to cough up as much as the service is being offered today. Father died in Florida 12 years ago, mother died here two years ago. In both cases the people providing the services charged way and beyond what was anticipated. Holding cost, the cardboard box etc. We even had to buy vaults for holding the cremains.
My parents did get a stone and the ash containers they wanted from it. We didn't use the funeral home for services. Did a graveside service for the both of them at the same time. They did provide the digging of the grave and set up some chairs. My experience is arrange everything you can, but be very carful about what you pay for. What a stone. buy that, but leave handling directions and a fund to whomever you designate to handle your estate. They only need to make a few calls and have access to the money.

 

Glad to hear things turned out in your favor dennis. That's a great looking stone but hopefully the good Lord will keep you and Judy here with us for many years to come!

 

My wife worked in the death care industry (yeah, that's what they call it) for many years. Most recently she worked for a privately owned pre-need insurance company. Part of her job was to weed out the dishonest sellers, many of whom were affiliated with a funeral home. She said that for the most part, funeral directors and people associated with them were very nice honest people, but there are also some downright scumbags. Very often when she would point out someone that was defrauding the policy holders, it would fall on deaf ears because it was all about the money. She has seen situations such as yours happen many times. Sometimes the agents would have the policy holders make payments directly to them and in the end, the insurance company would be held responsible when the person dies and still have to pay the claim.

Heck with taking up any space, I want burned when I'm dead. Someone would probably end up peeing on me anyway.

 

Your last name is Cook... Thought it would Backwoods or even Savage.. and to think we have alias's on this site'
Good for you and your wallet. Nice stone

 

Love the stone. Future genealogist will really appreciate the wealth of info on it. Just need Judy's maiden name but it would muck up the balance of the design. I am really glad you were able to get things back on track with the arrangements.

 

Glad it worked out for you Dennis. Nice stone. I'm glad y'all got a spot you like.

I've got strange views.
My teenage girls asked me recently what I wanted done. I said, "I don't care. Wait, actually I do, what ever is cheapest and that would be cremation".
They didn't really like the idea. I told them that when I die, all that's left is a carcass that needs disposed of. No need for anyone to get rich off it, and I'd rather my money be spent on something useful. They wanted to know what to do with the ashes. I told them- I didn't want anyone to keep them. Too much burden. Dump me in the creek at the house. I'll end up in the Gulf. That's cheap and easy.
My wife feels the same except she wants dumped in the Grand Canyon. Guess I'll have to go back, if I outlive her. That's OK.

 

I'm sure y'all have read about the travesties that have occurred recently in and around the Chitcagoland area regarding cemeteries and bodies etc.

Don't know what to add beyond that.

Glad you came out financially OK BWS and that you're ready to die with "peace of mind"!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Just not in the near future Lord willing!!!!!

 

You shoulda got married on October 26th.

 

Dennis; didn't they spell your surname incorrectly???? I thought your last name started with a "K"!!!



You're a firewood "kook"!!!




I'm a "KOOK" also......................."Keepers Of Odd Knowledge" society. We remember stuff no one else does!! I'm great at "Trivial Pursuit"!!

 

Karma. Based on what I know reading here, you will be well taken care of. As far as the head stone ours has been in place in New York since 1984, was 23 at the time. Not sure how it is going to work out being in Ohio and moving to St Croix. Want to be cremated now, some one will use it.

 

That must have been very stressful for you and your wife.
We have bought our plot, we are to be cremated and buried on the same plot. Neither one of us want a funeral, just a grave side ceremony for family. If my wife goes first, I'll dig the hole.

 

Thanks for the heads-up BWS. I bought a prearranged funeral last summer in southwestern Oklahoma and I will be double checking all of my paperwork just to make sure nothing like that has happed to me.

Just for the record......a prearranged funeral is the only way to go. I saved aroung 40% of what the going rate would have been if my family would have purchased everything at the last minute.

In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.
Benjamin Franklin

 

Wife and I plan on cremation and internment in veterans cemetery. No funeral. Just a family gathering. Maybe have a tree planted in our names.
Our kids show no interest in looking after or visiting a cemetery. I think after I am gone, no one will care for the cemetery where generations of my family are resting.

 

To me, this is a matter of balance between respect vs burden. I err toward burden, I don't want to be one, but that's me.